Schizophrenia: The Perspective of a Father & Brother-in-Lawtag:www.schizophrenia.com,2007-07-09:/mt4/schizophrenia-the-perspective-of-a-father-brother-in-law//142008-05-12T16:37:40ZA blog about schizophrenia from the perspective of someone who lives with his son and brother-in-law, both of whom suffer from schizophrenia.Movable Type Publishing Platform 4.0-beta5-20070704It's The Middle Of Maytag:www.schizophrenia.com,2008:/mt4/schizophrenia-the-perspective-of-a-father-brother-in-law//14.2492008-05-12T16:31:24Z2008-05-12T16:37:40ZHi everybody, yeah, it's the middle of May almost and there's a few things to write about. I celebrated another Mother's Day with my mom yesterday by taking her out to lunch with other family members to a downtown restaurant,...
Hi everybody, yeah, it's the middle of May almost and there's a few things to write about. I celebrated another Mother's Day with my mom yesterday by taking her out to lunch with other family members to a downtown restaurant, despite the rainy and windy weather, an enjoyable time was had by all. As for other goings-on, things have been pretty calm, my son is still trying to find employment and we have appealed his disability claim after it had been turned down. In regards to myself, I have my usual aches and pains, but nothing I can't handle. Life does go on and each time I think I have it bad I just see others a lot worse off than myself and realize it isn't so bad. As for my wife I think she is finally going to get some help with her mental health. There is always hope. Till next time, auf wiedersehn.
Since The Last Time I Wrotetag:www.schizophrenia.com,2008:/mt4/schizophrenia-the-perspective-of-a-father-brother-in-law//14.2462008-05-01T12:54:34Z2008-05-01T12:59:26ZA lot has happened. My son is in counseling and he recently got a 90-day supply of his meds and we are very pleased with that, he is still trying to find a job, he goes online frequently and out...
A lot has happened. My son is in counseling and he recently got a 90-day supply of his meds and we are very pleased with that, he is still trying to find a job, he goes online frequently and out in the community to look. It can be very frustrating, I try to keep his spirits up. The real world is tough, hard and cold to everyone. For years I have been telling him this and I'm not sure if he understands it or not. I have decided not to appeal his denial of disability because it would be fruitless, he was found capable of doing some work, just not former jobs. My mother and others are urging me to appeal but I have made my decision because it would be a hassle with the paperwork involved. More later, aloha.
Hello, Everybody, I Am Backtag:www.schizophrenia.com,2008:/mt4/schizophrenia-the-perspective-of-a-father-brother-in-law//14.2372008-04-15T14:00:15Z2008-04-15T14:07:19ZWell, this is not my last entry, good to be back and writing again. Last week I took my son to the family health clinic here in my hometown and he is on the way to getting quality healthcare once...
Well, this is not my last entry, good to be back and writing again. Last week I took my son to the family health clinic here in my hometown and he is on the way to getting quality healthcare once again, yesterday he went and talked to a mental health pro and hopefully things will turn around for him, he is trying again to find a job and is online a lot doing same. If my wife would just back off of both of us things would be a lot smoother, I went last week to the doctor for a physical exam and all is pretty good for a 51 year old white male which is me except my hypertension needs to be brought under control, I found out today from one of my sisters that my mom is so concerned for me she is afraid I might die and I am going to definitely do something about that right away, today I go and get my meds to that effect. I don't think my spouse realizes how hard she makes it on me sometimes, she just doesn't get it as they say and she never will in my opinion. I don't know how much more she wants or expects out of me, I am on top of our financial situation, I am helping my son and trying to be the absolutely best I can be at anything I attempt but it never seems to be enough for her, sometimes I just feel like telling her to f***k off. Oh well, I think I have vented enough for one day, more in the next entry, in the meantime, ciao.
Well, This Might Be My Last Entry For A Whiletag:www.schizophrenia.com,2008:/mt4/schizophrenia-the-perspective-of-a-father-brother-in-law//14.2342008-04-11T14:08:54Z2008-05-01T13:05:44ZWith just three of us in the house now, there really isn't much to write about except about my son, I am trying to get him medical care and help with his SSI claim and we are just in a...
With just three of us in the house now, there really isn't much to write about except about my son, I am trying to get him medical care and help with his SSI claim and we are just in a holding pattern. As for the brother-in-law' former room it has been turned into a gathering room and storage area, it still smells of cigarettes due to the fact the carpet has been burned over and over and is beyond cleaning stage. Anyway, that's all for now, when I think of anything worth writing about you'll see it in this space. Take care of yourselves for you are all you have.
Not Many Words to Write Todaytag:www.schizophrenia.com,2008:/mt4/schizophrenia-the-perspective-of-a-father-brother-in-law//14.2302008-04-02T15:19:56Z2008-04-02T15:22:34ZLast week some of my relatives began the process of cleaning out my brother-inlaw's room, just a week after we buried him, some would think that was premature due to his just passing about two weeks before. I guess their...
Last week some of my relatives began the process of cleaning out my brother-inlaw's room, just a week after we buried him, some would think that was premature due to his just passing about two weeks before. I guess their reasoning is to get it over quickly and put the room to another use. Who knows. More later I guess, until then peace and remember life is precious so enjoy every living moment you have, it could be your last.
As They Say, Life Goes Ontag:www.schizophrenia.com,2008:/mt4/schizophrenia-the-perspective-of-a-father-brother-in-law//14.2272008-03-27T11:41:10Z2008-03-27T11:44:20ZSix words with such a profound meaning in this year of 2008. Last week we buried my brother-in-law, a very emotional experience, it all seemed surreal. Bobby is at peace with God, and is reunited with his parents, and what...
Six words with such a profound meaning in this year of 2008. Last week we buried my brother-in-law, a very
emotional experience, it all seemed surreal. Bobby is at peace with God, and is reunited with his parents, and
what a reunion! He has no more, worries, health problems or concerns. We should all be as fortunate. He will now watch over us in the same manner as we did him for so long. There is one brother left and he will handle the afterarrangements, whatever they are, I don't envy him, it's a tough chore. We'll see how it all pans out, as for the rest of the story, till next time, Sayonara.
What Will My Son Do Now?tag:www.schizophrenia.com,2008:/mt4/schizophrenia-the-perspective-of-a-father-brother-in-law//14.2252008-03-24T11:28:15Z2008-03-24T11:33:53ZLast week my son was turned down for SSI, the specialists examining him agree he has a mental illness and felt it was not severe enough to disable him so they determined he could work at a non physical job...
Last week my son was turned down for SSI, the specialists examining him agree he has a mental illness and
felt it was not severe enough to disable him so they determined he could work at a non physical job or one that would not tax his mental state. We are deciding whether to appeal, my mom is urging us to do so but I haven't decided yet. My feeling is if two opinions by medical pros agree why would a third one change anything? His age(25) was cited as a factor. His work experience is lacking, due to his overprotective grandmother who passed away in 2004, she held him back because he was living with her then. When she died as aforementioned he had been working at a fast food restaurant but was let go because in their words, he did not meet their standards. He tried college for awhile but was unsuccessful and has run up a lot of debt, we are deciding whether to urge him to file Chapter 7 bankruptcy. More later, adios muchachos.
Now We Are Down To Onetag:www.schizophrenia.com,2008:/mt4/schizophrenia-the-perspective-of-a-father-brother-in-law//14.2192008-03-17T12:40:03Z2008-03-17T12:46:08ZAt approximately 1:15 a.m. on Sunday, my brother-in-law Bobby passed away at the Louisville Veterans Affairs Medical Center. He had been ill with cancer for some time, apparently longer than we knew of. He was 64 years old, and had...
At approximately 1:15 a.m. on Sunday, my brother-in-law Bobby passed away at the Louisville Veterans Affairs Medical Center. He had been ill with cancer for some time, apparently longer than we knew of. He was 64 years old, and had had schizophrenia at least 30 plus years and his life was anything but normal. He really didn't take care of himself as well as he could have, due to his affliction and his unhealthy habits. He was also paranoid and trusted only his brother. Needless to say, we are all saddened by his passing but realize he is no longer suffering and is at peace. Maybe we could learn from this that once again life is short, so make the most of the time we have in the world and enjoy it. Till next time, and by the way, Happy St. Patrick's Day!
When Someone Close To You Is Dyingtag:www.schizophrenia.com,2008:/mt4/schizophrenia-the-perspective-of-a-father-brother-in-law//14.2162008-03-12T07:32:25Z2008-03-12T07:49:29ZI have been writing this blog since November 2007 and I am about to do something I never thought I would. My brother-in-law is dying, we think of cancer, all tests point to it, we got the news two days...
I have been writing this blog since November 2007 and I am about to do something I never thought I would. My brother-in-law is dying, we think of cancer, all tests point to it, we got the news two days ago in mid-afternoon, and we are devastated, it makes me think of all the past phone calls I have received concerning death of relatives. Beginning in 1967, I answered the phone when an uncle died, four years later my grandfather, five years after that my other grandfather, thirteen years after that another uncle, four years later a grandmother, the following year, 1994, my dad, three years after that my other grandmother, and now my brother-in-law, who by the way, is named Bobby. I had not revealed his name until now. Sometimes I wonder if I am unlucky or just in the right place at the wrong time. Well, now we have to make plans when he will pass and he will, unfortunately. I know of no one that has lived forever except in spirit. It makes you wonder about your own mortality, the VA is doing all it can for him, mainly to keep him as comfortable as possible, he is just a shell of his former self. I haven't seen him in nearly a week due to the fact I have been handling chores around the house. I have been getting my son's affairs in order for him and trying to comfort my wife to the best of my ability. Maybe someday I will be rewarded for my efforts as a human being, though I don't think I am that great a person other than someone who has always tried to to his best and give his all. All I have ever wanted for my efforts is an occasional "Thank You". It never hurts for you to be acknowledged, if that sounds vain, no apologies. This is my blog and my thoughts. Till next time, peace..
You Never Can Tell What Happens Until.....tag:www.schizophrenia.com,2008:/mt4/schizophrenia-the-perspective-of-a-father-brother-in-law//14.2122008-03-08T07:20:51Z2008-03-08T07:26:13ZHi, everyone, been a few days since the last entry, a few things to share, among them my son lost another job, it sure has been frustrating for him, at least he did get income tax refunds and we will...
Hi, everyone, been a few days since the last entry, a few things to share, among them my son lost another job, it sure has been frustrating for him, at least he did get income tax refunds and we will use them wisely, I am getting him some medical help, the brother-in-law has been in the VA hospital twice in the last week, and is still there as I write this. It's been very traumatic for and on us, that's putting it mildly, the sister-in-law is oblivious to all that is occurring with her younger brother and that grates on us as well, especially my wife. As for myself, I am taking it day to day and keeping the faith, sometimes we all need divine guidance, prayer changes things, believe me. Easter arrives in two weeks and with it new beginnings. May you have one. Aloha.
Just When You Think........tag:www.schizophrenia.com,2008:/mt4/schizophrenia-the-perspective-of-a-father-brother-in-law//14.2082008-02-29T05:51:16Z2008-02-29T06:00:20ZHow often have we spoken or thought those words? Just when you think things may go as you anticipate a monkey wrench gets thrown into the machinery. Here's what I mean: The other day we found out the brother-in-law had...
How often have we spoken or thought those words? Just when you think things may go as you anticipate a monkey wrench gets thrown into the machinery. Here's what I mean: The other day we found out the brother-in-law had an MRI on his lower back at the VA hospital, some of the images didn't look good to the medical team examining them, one of the docs wants to do a bone marrow test to determine if he does or does not have a blood disease or cancer such as leukemia. When we heard about this we were disturbed to say the least. Finally some concrete things are happening, we just hope it isn't too late to keep him with us. It sure has been a pressure situation on all of us except the sister-in-law who doesn't, excuse my language, give a shit. She is in her own world and appears to have shut us out and is only in contact when it suits her. I wonder how she would react if her brother left us? Hmmm. Something to ponder. As for the son he is looking for another job currently, he wants to work in tech support. I hope he makes it. Ciao.
I Wonder About My Sontag:www.schizophrenia.com,2008:/mt4/schizophrenia-the-perspective-of-a-father-brother-in-law//14.2042008-02-26T08:52:32Z2008-02-26T08:58:41ZIf any of you out there are fathers, you ask yourself that question frequently. I have been lately because my son has been spending a lot of time away from home lately at a friend's apartment. He says they have...
If any of you out there are fathers, you ask yourself that question frequently. I have been lately because my son has been spending a lot of time away from home lately at a friend's apartment. He says they have been writing songs or at least trying to, yesterday I got a call from Social Security Disability inquiring about his claim for benefits and was on the phone at least twenty minutes or so. It could be he feels so bored at home that he is more comfortable away. Who knows? I don't know what is in his head. He wants to work again and wants me to take him to a prospective employer on my next day off and I said I would. My wife and I are wondering if he just wants the money associated with working but doesn't want to work for it. She still doesn't believe he is ill enough to draw disability. I think I am going to have real problems with that thinking. Makes you go hmmm. Oh, well, till next time, ciao.
The Latest And Greatest?tag:www.schizophrenia.com,2008:/mt4/schizophrenia-the-perspective-of-a-father-brother-in-law//14.2012008-02-23T07:01:04Z2008-02-23T07:06:58ZWell, someone finally realized the brother-in-law needed help with his health, his doctor at the VA admitted him this week and has scheduled an MRI and will try to get him to quit smoking by using nicotine patches, we feel...
Well, someone finally realized the brother-in-law needed help with his health, his doctor at the VA admitted him this week and has scheduled an MRI and will try to get him to quit smoking by using nicotine patches, we feel this is the greatest of his problems. He can't get out of bed to move around without assistance, it looks like he is going to be in the hospital for a while. We are all hoping he will improve. As for the son he has been spending a lot of time at a friend's apartment instead of looking for another job, we are frustrated with his seemingly lack of incentive to improve himself. We feel if he is successful in drawing disability he will never work at all. As of this moment we are in a holding pattern. Sayonara.
A Couple Days Offtag:www.schizophrenia.com,2008:/mt4/schizophrenia-the-perspective-of-a-father-brother-in-law//14.1972008-02-20T11:23:46Z2008-02-20T11:30:21ZThat's what I have and I am going to take advantage of them and recharge my batteries by doing some different things around the house like yardwork, that's always a good way to blow off steam. As for the coming...
That's what I have and I am going to take advantage of them and recharge my batteries by doing some different things around the house like yardwork, that's always a good way to blow off steam. As for the coming week, Monday I report for jury duty at the local courthouse, that should be interesting, a chance to get away from work and home and see how a different part of the world lives. As for the situation around the house it is the same, the brother-in-law we had to take to the local VA hospital emergency room and all they did was some blood work and a urinalysis for his sodium count was so low allegedly he could go into a coma and even die. Talk about pressure, that is about as bad as it gets, we are so frustrated at the VA's supposedly lax attitude toward helping him that we are about to get our local US representative in Congress involved and the fur will fly then, because when the Congress gets involved things happen and rather quickly most of the time.
As for the son he is still trying to figure out what to do, I think he takes it day to day as I have been doing. Till next time. -30-
Day To Day Livingtag:www.schizophrenia.com,2008:/mt4/schizophrenia-the-perspective-of-a-father-brother-in-law//14.1952008-02-17T08:47:00Z2008-02-17T08:56:15ZThat's what I have decided to do, live each day one at a time, sometimes it isn't good to plan ahead unless what you have going on is a regular occurence. Of course, you can't make plans when you deal...
That's what I have decided to do, live each day one at a time, sometimes it isn't good to plan ahead unless what you have going on is a regular occurence. Of course, you can't make plans when you deal with two schizophrenics for at any time they could do anything and you wouldn't see it coming. Here's a good example:
The brother-in-law can be sleeping one moment and in the next he could be going to the bathroom, lighting up one of the three packs of cigarettes he smokes daily or drinking the pitchers of tea he makes frequently. It's no wonder he can't sleep for all the caffeine he consumes, I can't drink his tea for he makes it so strong it stains plastic tumblers and glasses. He makes it the way his mother taught him but the one difference is he uses more tea bags than she did and not enough water. The way I make it is with a coffee maker and the proper amount of bags. What a difference. Lately his health has been really going downhill, it wouldn't surprise me if he ends up in assisted living, it's getting so he can barely care for himself anymore. He can barely walk and his speech is slurred. We still feel he hasn't found the right medical team to care for him at the VA. As for the son he is still determined to find another job preferably full-time and more money on the hour too. There's always hope, as for the wife, nothing new to report. Later. -30-