hey, i feel sorry for you. Tell the dude the truth about the gal.. Peace Out!
Posted by: timo at March 1, 2006 06:37 AM
Well I'm in the same situation as you. My dad became friends with this stripper and she started to live with him, she's much younger than he (she's like 23 and he's 43) and she does crack, and I belive my dad started doing it too. He tends to grind his teeth alot, and he gets good money but seems to always be broke. He doesn't take care of himself anymore, and doesn't see how everyone who are his "friends" are using him. They take his money, and use his car and phone. I miss my old dad, but...how can I tell for sure if he's doing it or not? Do you know any other signs I can look out for? Thanks -Shilan
Posted by: shilan at April 9, 2006 06:47 PM
One sign of crack addiction is a lack of common decency towards others, seemingly a complete inability to do good unto others. I know a crack addict who I believe has turned into a pimp. I met a street prostitute who said her crack expenses are about 600$ daily. The pimps near my work justify their what they call "recreational service providing" while taking the "power away from", taking the earnings for services performed by the crack/ice addicted women supplied with crack and/or ice, that they are "taking care of these women, making sure they don't get hurt." Yeah right. They exploit them and lead them farther into the cycle of drug addiction and depression. They say what they do is to take care of women, meanwhile they use them for their own gain, putting them out to work when they are pregnant and/or HIV positive. These hapless women for whom the brief crack high takes away their pain, and having had surrendered their cellphones and other such worldly goods to the pimp, who "takes care" of their drug cravings while ripping them off for the money they would ordinarily earn for performing a sexual service, these women deserve to be treated with common decency, yet the downtown community where i live, doesn't think beyond, oh those tawdry hookers, what an eyesore. meanwhile they are being victimized.
Any thoughts on pimps as the most vile abusers of women...and how crack is often a catalyst for this?
Posted by: Singing Pyramids at May 17, 2006 08:21 AM
Hi, I can understand.. My dad is a crack addict, Right now he is in Jail, since Mon. 3 Fels. against him buying poss. and destroying.It's funny though all the people that were giving him money before(enabling him) aren't here anymore . I'm here. His daughter. I'm 29 married 2 kids and it's killing me.. He wants out but they won't bond him out. I won't do it unless he agrees to go straight to a rehab so I can have my DAD back and the kids can have there Papa back. Sorry chattering tooo long. Poor me I know. Everyone has there story.
Posted by: hurtingtoo at July 1, 2006 06:51 AM
i feel ya girl... i just found out my dad is a crackhead and im devistated. i though he was just a dead beat dad that wouldn't pay child support.
but hay wat can u do.
Posted by: jade at November 18, 2006 01:24 AM
i know what you mean its so hard dealing with a crackhead.. it seems like they are doin better but they are really not. my mom has been a crackhead for about 2 years now its crazy what that stuff does to you
Posted by: rose lee at January 10, 2007 12:45 AM
My boyfriend, the love of my life, my best friend, is addicted to crack. He disappears for days, without answering the phone or replying my messages. I feel so lost and torn to pieces. He's not sure if he should move out and get his own place. Should he? I can't take the pain anymore, but I love him more than anything in this world. Should I let him leave? Please help me, before I completely fall apart.
Posted by: Peewee at March 19, 2007 11:08 PM
i have a father that is using crack for a long time now and when i found out he was using was when he was at the kitchen table with a soda can was bent with holes punch on the top and he had put some crack on top and put a lighter under the can and he started sucking on the can and in haling the crack in front of me and when i saw that i ran outside to my friends house so thats how i found out the he was on crack
Posted by: big mo' at March 28, 2007 04:30 PM
My heart goes out to you all... God delivered me from a crack addiction when I was 19 but my dad has been addicted for 15 years now. It's hell - we all know that. God will be your Father when you do not have one. Cry to him, let him hold you, he is the only one in your life that won't let you down.
Posted by: Angel at May 17, 2007 06:35 PM
Rose Lee, I saw your message about your boyfriend being addicted to crack... I hear you as I've just spent 2 years of hell with the same thing. Like you I love(d) my boyfriend and it still kills me to see him destroy his life for this crap. When I first found out about it and read other people's horror stories I figured that could never happen to me, and decided to stick it out and try to help him out of this... Well, it's 2 years later, I'm about $8000 more in debt, he's been to rehab and through several jobs and there is no sign of it ending... Off crack he's a nice guy but as soon as those cravings come not so much. He's "borrowed" my car to use in a drug deal, stolen from me and friends, and god knows what else. If you're anything like me you're telling yourself that you can stick this out, that these things won't happen to you, that your love can transform him, etc etc... Please take it from me though, none of that works. Get out while you still have your sanity and your bank account intact. It'll hurt for awhile, but then it'll be over, unlike me and this never-ending ordeal.
Posted by: Jeff at June 1, 2007 05:14 AM
im really sorry about your dad but what people fail to relizes is that drugs was here before you me and your dad and they will still be here when you me and your dad leave as pain full as that is to believe it's true and you just got to face life and try to get your dad some help because crack is a very addicted drug and more than likely he cant leave the drug alone by himself but you are in my prayers and i hope the best for you and him both may god be with you
Posted by: Jessica at June 27, 2007 09:30 PM
I'm at my wits end!....just found out a couple of days ago my daughter is addicted to crack...she admitted that she has a problem and is willing to seek help, which is a very positive thing. I'm not sure what to do! She's living away with her sister...should I be there with her?...would she want me there? I wouldn't want to put her under any more pressure than she already is! She has lot's of love & support around her from her sister & a very close & dear friend who had previously experienced the same addiction with a loved one. Needless to say she's in very good hands. That still leaves me wondering what I should do...I would appreciate any advice....Thank-you.
Posted by: jacque at July 11, 2007 01:38 PM
to all of you out there dealing whith a crackhead get as far away from them as you can i had a crackhead boyfrend and it will not get better only worse they will steel the pennys of a dead mans eyes i was betten and choket and my ribs where cracked just becouse i hid my money from him i hid my money in my panntys once and i woke up whith the croch cut out of my pjs i came home once just in time to see my washer and dryer on the back of his pickup going doun the road WHITH MY DIRTY CLOTHES STILL IN THEM im not kidding if you value your own life RUN RUN AS FAST AND AS FAR AS YOU HAVE TO TO GET AWAY FROM THEM BELEVE ME THE LIFE YOU SAVE MIGHT BE YOUR OWN
Posted by: angie at July 19, 2007 07:26 PM
IT IS REALLY WEIRD READING ABOUT WHAT I SEE MY BROTHER IS GOING THROUGH. MY BROTHERS FATHER WAS A CRACK HEAD AND ALSO HAS SCHIZOPHRENIA.ONE QUESTION THAT I DO HAVE IS COULD IT BE CARRIED FROM FATHER TO SON??? AND IF SO HOW COULD I TELL?? MY BROTHER IS 20 YEARS OLD, AND INVOLVED WITH A 30 YEAR OLD WOMEN WITH 3 KIDS, TWO OF THEM WHICH ARE ALMOST TEENS AND SHE NO LONGER TAKES CARE OF THEM, AND THE OTHER JUST BORN. HE LIVES WITH MY MOTHER AND GRANDMOTHER, WITHIN THE LAST TWO MONTHS THEY HAVE GIVEN HIM THE RENT MONEY LIKE THEY ALWAYS DO AND THE LANDLORD HAS TOLD MY MOTHER THAT THERE HAS BEEN NO RENT MONEY PAID FOR 2 MONTHS!THE LADY THAT HE IS SEEING IS ON PROBATION FOR CRACK. HE STAYS OUT ALL NIGHT AND SLEEPS MOST OF THE DAY THEN LEAVES AGAIN AND DOES NOT GO HOME TILL MAYBE 3 OR 4 AM. ALTOGETHER WITH THE TWO MONTHS RENT NOT BEING PAID IS A TOTAL OF $1420.00. THERE IS MORE TO SAY BUT I WILL BE WRITING ALL DAY IF I TOLD YOU EVERYTHING! SO IS IT A CRACK HEAD OR IS IT SCHIZOPHRENIA?
Posted by: Cynthia at August 6, 2007 09:59 PM
I am 26 Years of age and in love with a crack head. I never knew what kind of emotions a person could feel dealing with someone of the addiction. He fights me, steals from me, and will do anything for that high. Crack heads will also try to turn you out to support their own habbits. But you have to be strong enough to know that its not worth your sanity. I just pray that God delivers my heart from loving him, but pray the lord have mercy on his soul for he is lost. I never knew how serious his conditon was until about a year ago. He is wonderful when he is sober, but when the urge for crack kicks in he is Satan himself. He will still the pampers off of a baby. But me being the young woman that I am, I know that this relationship can only go down hill from here. I cannot take the risk of losing myself trying to love someone who does not love himself. I pray that everyone going through this be strong and ask God to guide you.
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Posted by: ANDREA at October 5, 2007 06:45 PM
Let me tell you, I have been involved with a "crackhead" for many, many years. I was with this man for 2 years, had his baby, 2 years later got married, and 47 days later was told by a close friend that my man was secretly smoking crack. It couldn't stay a secret for very long. I believed in staying married forever, so I tried to "change" him. I thought if I get pregnant again he will change for a baby. Ha!! I had another daughter, 18 months later gave birth to his son. He was at the birth, but didn't return to the hospital for 2 days & was the last to find out that our precious son had Down Syndrome. I will go to my grave believing that his crack use made that happen to my son. I lived many years of misery, shame, disqust and emotionally a basket case with so many responsibilities. Until one day, that man decided to show me what smoking crack looked like, I had been through everything with his addiction, but seeing that for my own eyes was the most digusting thing ever. 2 days later his stuff was out and 3 wks later I filed for divorce. We were married 10 years and i finally seen all I needed to see. My children are now 15,12&10. i hide no truth from them about their father as they too have had to witness things no child should ever have to. I am sorry to take so much space, but if I can help one person I feel that it will be worth it. Please, if you are in a relationship w/ a crack user get out now, please do not be like me and have 3 children w/them. I can never escape him now, even though we are no longer married, and it has been 3 years since the divorce, he still has my mind and soul screwed up. Please, please save yourself and leave now....it will never end...
Posted by: Dee at October 20, 2007 02:28 AM
i know how all of you feel except i was the crackhead...i ran from rehab seven times. i was locked up as a juvenile and locked up as an adult for a while. i am only 19 years old. i stole from my mom, had sex for just a few hits of crack. now i have a 4 month old daughter and i have recovered. i love her more than anything and she was my little angel. people can change!!!! it was so hard to gain trust back from family and friends but i did it. and anyone else can do it too.
Posted by: megan at October 30, 2007 02:20 PM
Isnt there any good news, doesnt anyone know of someone that has beat crack? I started seeing my high school boyfriend from 20 yrs ago who just went through rehab, and has now relapsed 4 times, is there any hope for him? I love him so much and want to help but I dont no what to do. Any advise to help him? should he go back to rehab its expensive and he cant afford it.
Posted by: Jackie at November 4, 2007 08:10 AM
I have 2 baby boys ages 2 years and 6 weeks by a man that smokes crack a couple times a week...he swears up and down that he's not addicted...and says he'll quit...but I've seen him go from once a month to twice a week now...he smokes in the same house w/my babies when I beg him not to...I take the children in another room w/me accross the house hoping to shelter them from the secondhand smoke...Does anyone know the effects the second hand smoke could have on my kids...and does anyone know of a shelter to women w/children in this situation...I've been a stay at home mother and I know noone around where I live that could help me or help watch the kids...so I am unable to get on my feet and get out...and he has me so "trapped"...he's made me alienate my friends and family...and most of my family say they have their own problems anyway and that they can't help me in any way! I pray god will deliver him and help me find a way out! I am uncertain what my next move will be...please help
Posted by: brokenhearted at November 7, 2007 11:30 PM
Please help! My brother is married to a crack head, he is driving himself crazy trying to make his marriage work because they have two children ages 3 and 1. He keeps catching her in lies, she was arrested a couple of weeks ago with a crack dealer, I won't tell you where she hid the crack pipe the details are to disgusting. She has stole money from there bank account, she is destroying his relationships with me, my sister and my parents, she has stole prescription drugs from my sisters purse. How can I help my brother see that she is a crack head everytime something happens she plays innocent, tells him lies and swears she only smokes pot. My brother is in denial because he wants to believes her so he can have his family back. Please help
Posted by: koko at November 17, 2007 12:12 AM
i know how y'all feel it may sound strange but my grandmother is on crack i don't know what i can do to get her to stop...im only 14 years old... she she has been my role model for 13 years.... i really don't know what to do i have always looked up to her.. she started to smoke crack when my grandfather died..1 year later she met a MAJOR crack head ted.. he destroyed my family and tore us ALL apart.. i dont know what to do i love my grandmother ALOT and she went from being 150 ponds to being 100 pounds. i want my old grandma back.. i have had alot of stress in my life and this topped it all off... can anyone help me? email me firstname.lastname@example.org
thank you =[
Posted by: anonymous and sad. at November 25, 2007 01:10 AM
I feel sorry for all people who are with crack heads
good luck tho
Posted by: Jim Buster at November 26, 2007 04:56 PM
Hello everyone, im in a unique situation and well.............I would like to hear what some of the people here think. Im currently dating a woman who told me that her ex-husband is a reformed crack-head. While she was married she told me that her husband made her sleep with men for crack, even did a 3some with her husband and his crack dealer, I asked her many times if she ever used it before, she tells me very convincingly no, she has never used it before. She then tells me that her brother is a crack-head and her best male friend is a reformed crack-head, but she insists that she never have used. My question to you guys is, wouldn't it seem obvious that if all the important people in her life like her husband (whom she has divorced), her brother and best friend were crack heads, wouldnt it stand to reason that she would have been one??? I really like this woman, but I need to know but I dont know what to look for that would indicate to me that she was, i know she isnt doing anything now, but im curious about if she ever did, please everyone respond im curious to see what you guys think
Posted by: confused at December 2, 2007 05:18 AM
I have dated aman well a male for 15 years (gender does not make you a real man) and for the past 4years. I had been in denial about his addiction.In the beginning it was weed then syrup then primo. He hid and continues tohide primo)We now have a daughter who was born ill and preemie. He now has about 5 other children and many other women. He does not work to support himself or his children.He has stolen money from me and abused others financially. He lies about everything. He change women every few years. He lives with women who support him . So this is the pattern of an addict . No matter how much you love them, you will never have the ability to change them.If you stay in the relationship long enough it will ultimately destroy you. Pray, shut the door, and live your life. Trust me they are living theres. Who is to say they want to change, people do what they choose to do.If you choose to spend the rest of your life waiting ,then that is your choiuce, but what a loss. Why waste your precious life that Jesus died and suffered for you to have. I am 35 now for 15 years i have been totally miserable trying to change someone. I almost ruined my life,but...God!! Choose life and live, God has so much more to offer. He won't make you cry,he won't keep you waiting, and he is not a man that he should lie. Peace
Posted by: advise at December 6, 2007 03:34 AM