May 14, 2005


I was wrong to say in my previous posts that it didn't matter to me losing more friends. The immediate effects of feeling lonely made me depressed. It made me more anxious. It affected my breathing pattern (and that is why I've started doing my Art of Living's Sudarshan Kriya). Those friends of mine read my blog and were shocked to know about the tough times I'd been through. They told me that they didn't really mean what they said, and they don't hate me. It made me more relaxed. Recently, I read an article on WebMD about how loneliness affects people. It has been shown time and again to weaken the immune system and affect the heart. Interestingly, however, loneliness is different from isolation from people. A person can feel lonely in a crowd, and another could feel content around just a few people. It depends upon the kind of relationships you develop around people, and how they meet your social needs.

One of the most disabling features for those with schizophrenia is social inacceptability, which is present even after the person has recovered from suffering social withdrawal (a symptom of sz) and inability to react appropriately in social situations and understand the social cues. Unless the stigma of this illness goes away, and the society is ready to accept people suffering from this illness, only then can we truly recover completely. And this can happen only when we have a good psychotherapeutical system in which the person can be gradually allowed to adjust in a social environment, taught again to understand social cues, to come out of the years of social withdrawal that they have put themselves through. The need of the hour is to build up on these systems so the individual can lead a socially productive life, and not live on streets from hand to mouth. In India, we don't even have enough psychiatrists to help the ill, leave aside the psychotherapy, no medical aids to help the lower classes which constitute 70% of the population. It is time now to start spreading information about the illness, to fight for the rights of the ill, to bring about a revolution against this stigma!

Posted by puzli at May 14, 2005 12:50 PM


hey puzli,

you are doing a great job here.what is missing is a views from the prospective of a normal person who might be your friend or relative...everybody that suffer from this disease should know what their family and friends think too. it good to tell people that are around you about it but whats also important is to tell them how to deal with it. may it be regarding accepting it or about reacting when the illness takes control.

i think that would hepl them get more comfortable with you and other that suffer as they would know exactly what to do.

hope i didnt offend anybody.

one of your normal friends

Posted by: sandeepa at May 16, 2005 07:19 AM

Dear Pulzi,
Once again your fine character is illustrated in this blog. One cannot be isolated if he is concerned about his fellow man and appreciates the fact that he is one of the very few who is fortunate enough to have the means to receive help for his problem. You are far superior to many "normal" people, in my opinion.
Admiringly, Paula

Posted by: Paula Kirkpatrick at May 22, 2005 04:20 PM

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