March 23, 2004


My blog will consist mainly of what happens in my life with my mentally ill husband, who I will refer to as M. M is diagnosed as schizo-affective. We have been married a little over 20 years and have 3 children.

M was not diagnosed until after we had been married about 3 years or so. However, he says he knew that something was "wrong" when he was in high school. I also must include that M has insight into his illness. He takes medication and sees a dr. regularly. In my opinion, this is one of the main reasons our relationship has endured.

M suffers tremendously with paranoia, even though he is on a great deal of medication. This is just something that he trys to live with, however it gets the best of him and me sometimes.

One of the keys to our relationship is truth and trust. I know that by telling the truth always to M. he will trust me, which is something he does not do easily. It is hard for him to trust anyone. Sometimes, if he questions me or my motives, I remind him that I have always been truthful and have been here for 20 years. I would never, ever do anything to intentionally hurt him.

This life that we lead together is not always a straight path. We have our ups, downs and dangerous curves.

Love, medication, hope, commitment and friendship have kept us together so far.

Posted by Jamie at March 23, 2004 02:30 AM | TrackBack


way to go!!

Posted by: puzli at March 23, 2004 06:30 AM

Thats a very interesting blog you are starting. I will be very interested to follow it.
I am diagnosed sz and married since almost one year. I hope my wife is as dedicated to me as you are to your husband.
I am hoping I can learn something from your thoughts on your marriage with an sz man.
thanks, and happy writing of your entries,

Posted by: Deutsch at March 23, 2004 02:06 PM

I hope I am addressing the right person. Did you mention that you husband also had some hearing problems? I have schizo-affective, and I also have to take an unrelated medication that sometimes causes deafness. Once I was deaf for about a week. I never felt so cut off. No one understood why I was so upset. I had to guess at what people were saying and try to read lips. Being deaf, or hard of hearing is really difficult to live with. I know it's hard for the person who lives with the deaf one also.

Posted by: Mandisa at April 18, 2004 07:55 AM

Wow, I thought the guy over at had it bad, but he's only been going at it for ten years. I wish you strength.

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Posted by: fagopymx at March 27, 2007 08:45 PM

Hello Jamie read your blog came to know about your husband condition.
The thing that your husband felt that he was a important person and felt perscuted ,I have website if you google Konaraad Elst site topic called secular look at bible will discuss in detail about Jesus mental condition.Yes Jesus himself was sufferrings from mental illness.It would be good if you go through it,may be it can help.
Take care bye

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